Anytime a White identified woman asks how to be an ally to a womyn of color, or how to be a “real feminist” that includes full self-actualization, I am always in amazement that the first things said are about how “hard” things are, how “oppressive” the world is, how racism has depleted the hope, stamina, and good-nature of womyn of color.
Speaking at least for myself, yes, there is another side of life that womyn of color must deal with that often has to do with poverty, injustice, violence, and discrimination in waves that most US-White women do not understand.
However, what I think most people don’t understand is that with rough terrain often comes full souls, hearts that are readily open and laugh often, party much, and celebrate the matters of most importance.
Communities of differences beset by injustice are often the first to identify the good spots of life, the waters that most take for granted.
That side of womyn of color is often not understood.
I am not a meeting the world with a bitter head, I see it head on, face up, and have joy.
I have joy.
So, if you want to better understand the lives of womyn of color, it is imperative to not only understand the pain, but to watch the joy.